How to Communicate With an Uncommunicative Ex About Your Kids

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ignoring (free clip art)
Discussing your child with your ex is important for you both as parents. It’s very important that you keep an open line of communication and don’t withhold information from one another that relates to your child. After all, even if you’re not still together, co-parenting is better for your child.

Unfortunately, though, you may find yourself in a situation where your ex doesn’t want to communicate with you. This can be problematic, especially when it comes to your child. If you have an uncommunicative ex, here are a few things you can do to start communicating effectively.

Use a mediator.

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mediator (free clip art)
It’s possible that your ex can’t put aside his or her feelings in order to communicate with you. If this is true, it may be in your best interest to hire a mediator to resolve your communication issues. In these instances, a mediator is a neutral third-party that can help you and your ex communicate your feelings and create solutions that best meet your specific needs.

Create a custody agreement.

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divorce meme (free clip art)
If you do not currently have a custody agreement, you should consider creating one. A custody agreement determines the guidelines and regulations you and your ex must follow as it pertains to your child. For example, your agreement will specify which parent has custody of the child at which times, a holiday schedule, and even a way for you to communicate any information relating to your child. This is something you can set up on your own and file with the court, or you can use a mediator or divorce attorney.

Create a paper trail.

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paper trail (free clip art)
If your ex does not want to communicate with you, you can at least create a paper trail. For example, use text messages or emails as a way to communicate with your ex. If your child receives information from school or the doctor, create copies and give them to your ex. If your ex still does not communicate with you after these attempts, you can use your paper trail proof to propose an amendment to your custody agreement. National Family Solutions reviews these types of cases and can provide direction to the appropriate resources.

List both of you on important documents.

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important documents (free clip art)
When it comes to your child, both parents need to be advised on his or her well-being. For example, if your child’s school uses email to communicate with parents, make sure that both you and your ex have signed up to receive the emails. This way, when it comes to school matters, you don’t have to be responsible for informing your ex about school events or your child’s grades.

Use a neutral third-party.

It may be possible that your ex doesn’t want to communicate specifically with you, but would have no problem talking to someone else. If this is the case, try using a neutral third-party to deliver messages between the two of you. You can opt to pay someone, such as a mediator, or you can use a neutral friend or family member. Just be sure you choose someone who is completely neutral and who, like you and your ex, have your child’s best interests in mind.

Tip of the hat to Yosemite Sam

One of my dear sisters and I had a good chat yesterday. She told me something I hadn’t known about her before – she loves Yosemite Sam! I knew she loved Popeye, had no idea about Yosemite Sam! I guess it really is possible to love two men at once!

I mentioned that it had been a very long time since I had seen any Yosemite Sam clips, and that I might not even recognize his voice if I heard it! How embarrassing is that? We grew up watching Bugs Bunny cartoons, and Yosemite Sam was frequently the featured nemesis of the clip! So, in the spirit of refreshing my memory, and paying homage to our childhood, I have looked him up on YouTube and found lots of entries with Yosemite Sam. Most of the ones I saw were poor quality, very grainy, and involved Sam getting the short end of the stick with his encounters with Bugs Bunny. Actually made me feel sorry for the poor guy!

I eventually found this video, which I felt was a better quality and allowed the viewer to see Sam in a better setting, where he is just being Sam, without that bothersome rabbit getting the best of him! I decided to include this post and video on my blog, as a tribute to the quirky little guy, and an affectionate nod to my family! I hope you enjoy it!

Health Information Technology Trends

One of the more interesting things about the changing employment market is that as more physically intensive jobs are taken over by machines, more jobs open up that are related to handling information. Here in the United States, we are looking at the end of the industrial age and moving into the information age.

One occupational field that will likely stand the test of time and the transition is healthcare. As people are looking for new types of careers that combine healthcare with the information age, taking courses at the University of Illinois at Chicago may help pave the way to a new career in Health Information Technology. Career advisers are apt to encourage their clients to try to find work in a field that supports the information age. The following infographic addresses careers in Health Information Technology.

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A Crafter’s Lament

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Crafts (free clip art)

Poem written by Linda M. Bradshaw, copyrighted November 20, 2004

When I have time, I’m at my craft;
Some folks would say I’ve gone quite daft.

“Don’t throw that out!” they hear me say,
“I’ll find a use for that some day!”

Used gift wrapping, old cookie tin,
To throw it out would be a sin!

I’ll clean it up – it’s good as new!
Embellish it, that’s what I’ll do!

Jars and lids, bags, boxes and corks
Plastic bottles, old spoons and forks.

Scraps of fabric, buttons and bows
When will I use ‘em? Heaven knows!

Fancy scissors, glue and glitter
Time and space, with glee I fritter.

Patchwork quilting, beading, quilling;
Nooks and crannies, whole rooms filling!

Paints and ribbons, needles and yarn.
To store all that, I need a barn!